"Icing on the cake"

Often times we find ourselves constantly saying that something in particular is the "icing on the cake." Meaning, it has basically sealed the deal for you in whatever it is you are attemtping to accomplish. But, in the relationship aspect of things, what really seals the deal for you?



I like to always think that there are things such as personality, common interests, goals, aspirations and all around generosity in a person that people would say is the "icing on the cake."



BUT then you have those people such as myself who look a little further! True enough all of these things above are making for a "beautiful" relationship, but I have to have that one thing that will seal the deal, SEX!



Is it a necessity for sex to play such a major role in a relationship? I mean think about it. Typically it lasts only 30 minutes to an hour, non-stop if you're good. Afterwards, you're all hot and tired. You lay there as if someone has sucked all of the life out of you and just really want to pass out! But on the other hand, in the midst of having passionate sex, you are not thinking about what is to come afterwards. All you are thinking to yourself and probably saying out loud is "oh my damn....this shit is soooo good." If you are a female you are saying, "I want you to go deep."



But really, is sex over rated? Can it make or break a relationship? Does it define a relationship and the expectations of it? If you had to make a choice between brains or sex, which would you choose?